Couples often suffer from too much heat, or not enough. Meaning, there is too much arguing and blaming, or or not enough intimacy and engagement. Soometimes both dynamics occur at different times.
When we are caught in a destructive cycle of anger and resentment, there is no room to talk calmly about what's going on on the emotional level.
When we retreat into our own worlds and shut the other out, there is no connection.
The way I work with people strives to reconnect the partners with each other, and teach them how to communicate so they can learn how to understand each other better and come to a place of harmony and intimacy.
I utilize genograms, elements of Imago therapy and Bowenian family therapy.